Look at it this way: When your friends go to India to learn how to meditate and come home “leading spiritual lives” and suddenly won’t go out for barbecue with you, you think it is cool. Your friend is leading a spiritual life. Spiritual lives involve boundaries and not just doing whatever your body feels like at that second. We lead spiritual lives. Leading a spiritual life is rewarding.
I liked this metaphor comparing Orthodox Jews to other spiritual seekers. It really is true.